As a traditionally gender-binary-based society, we have largely been focused on finding a partner to be compatible with our personality and values. When this doesn't happen immediately, one of the first signs that it won't is if you or your partner has a history of breaking or ignoring boundaries. Not only can this hurt your relationship's foundation from the start, but it also doesn't mesh well with long-term compatibility as time goes on. If your relationship with your partner feels like a roller coaster, you may be in an abusive one. There are many signs that can suggest if you are in this type of relationship. There are varying levels of abuse, and they can occur in any type of relationship. If you feel that you or someone you know is in danger, then please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or TTY 1-800-787-3224. Their website also offers information on counseling and legal advice for victims. Physical abuse is when one part uses physical force to make another part do something they don't want to do or give them pain when they have done nothing wrong. Verbal abuse is when one part uses words in a way that causes their partner to feel bad about themselves. Verbal abuse can range from name calling, manipulation, put-downs, and insults. Verbal abusers tend to have a misconception of how they think others perceive them or how they think they look in the eyes of others. In some cases verbal abuse can spiral into physical abuse if the verbal abuser has been physically abusive in the past with their partner. Some people with body dysmorphia are also known for using body shaming techniques to get another person to do something that they want done based on their own image of what the other person should look like. In some cases, verbal abusers have been shown to be able to continue with this type of abuse because the partner they are abusing is more concerned about the abuser's wellbeing than their own. Passive-Aggressive Abuse involves purposefully avoiding or failing to follow through with responsibilities and commitments. This is a type of abuse that prevents others from being able to discuss what is going on due to constant denial and refusal to follow through with anything that has been previously discussed. Emotional abuse stems from a desire for control over ones partner or circumstances of their partner's life. This can include things such as withholding love or support, making threats, playing mind games, and manipulating people. An emotionally abusive relationship can be challenging to recognize because partners often do not exhibit specific behaviors that are typical of abusive relationships. Prolonged exposure to this type of behavior can cause long-term emotional trauma. Some of the signs of emotional abuse include feeling isolated, alone, or unloved; having your identity questioned or threatened; feeling pressured to change yourself or the way you act; seeing manipulation as love, oppressive control as positive regard, and abusive comments as caring words. 8eeb4e9f32 36
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